I am ugly- cried a woman to shaikh complaining about her unattractive features

My dear sister who complain thinking she is not pretty :
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How can you think that you are ugly while you were created by the best of creators? Our creator who himself said to you that he created you in the best shape! Why would care what people say while the lord of these people said that you are beautiful!?
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My dear sister, the beauty is the beauty of the soul! What will return to Allah is your soul My sister! Focus on your soul because your eternal soul is trapped inside a temporary body that will be nothing but food for worms....
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You want the beauty you imagine? You will have it in jannah My dear sister! Even if you were drop dead gorgeous you will still be just another name on the list of the Angel of death and you will still die and be in your grave only you and your deeds! Will this beauty you cry for save you in your grave? Will your looks help you when you will be questioned by Munkar WA nakir? Wallahi beauty will be your last concern once you will see the angel of death and feel the agonies of death! Trust me once you will stand before Allah only one thing will matter to you: saving your self from hellfire! *
My sister, beauty will fade but what will remain eternally is the beauty of the soul and as a reward for your patience in this dunya, Allah will make you a stunning gorgeous beauty that If a man from dunya were to see you he would die from what his eyes see! You will be young and gorgeous forever and old age will never reach you 😊 so focus on your soul and do not let society standard beauty define you! You are unique and we're created unique and you will always be the protagonist of your own story and not a second character or a copy in the story of someone else... 🙏

Hitting the wife in Islam: part 1

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(But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance - [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them [lightly].But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allah is ever Exalted and Grand. ). 4:34
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So there is this idea from people that in Islam a man can hit his wife and that make Islam so violent and unjust,when the truth is we just didn't understand the meaning of the verse .
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So it start talking firstly about the steps. So if for example a husband is angry about something ex the wife not praying or she talk with guys he need first to advice her and leave some time, then to avoid sleeping with her leave some time, then we come to the "hitting part".
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Anyway let's talk about how to hit a wife: *Firstly we should avoid the face :
Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet (salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "If one of you were to hit, he should avoid the face..." [Musnad Ahmad]
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*It should not be hurtful (that leave brusis ): Hasan al-Basri said: It means a striking without a trace. The jurists said: It may not break limbs, nor cause a mark of any kind.
Source: Tafsīr Ibn Kathīr 4:34
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*So now go next the nearest person to you and hit them but avoid hitting the face,avoid hurting them and it shouldn't leave brusis and tell me do you still think this is hitting?

Even though you are damaged, still you have a value

"A popular speaker started off a seminar by holding up a $20 bill. A crowd of 200 had gathered to hear him speak. He asked, 'Who would like this $20 bill?'

200 hands went up.

He said, 'I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this.' He crumpled the bill up.

He then asked, 'Who still wants it?'

All 200 hands were still raised.

'Well,' he replied, 'What if I do this?' Then he dropped the bill on the ground and stomped on it with his shoes.

He picked it up, and showed it to the crowd. The bill was all crumpled and dirty.

'Now who still wants it?'

All the hands still went up.

'My friends, I have just showed you a very important lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, life crumples us and grinds us into the dirt. We make bad decisions or deal with poor circumstances. We feel worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. You are special – Don't ever forget it!'

Ignore the hatter

"A group of frogs were traveling through the forest when two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that there was no hope left for them.

However, the two frogs ignored their comrades and proceeded to try to jump out of the pit. However, despite their efforts, the group of frogs at the top of the pit were still saying that they should just give up as they'd never make it out.

Eventually, one of the frogs took heed of what the others were saying and he gave up, jumping even deeper to his death. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the group of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and to just die.

He ignored them, and jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, 'Did you not hear us?'

The frog explained to them that he was deaf, and that he thought they were encouraging him the entire time."

Be kind to others even it's hurt to you

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10 year old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

'How much is an ice cream sundae?'

'50 cents,' replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled his hand out of his pocket and studied a number of coins in it.

'How much is a dish of plain ice cream?' he inquired. Some people were now waiting for a table and the waitress was a bit impatient.

'35 cents,' she said brusquely.

The little boy again counted the coins. 'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and departed.

When the waitress came back, she began wiping down the table and then swallowed hard at what she saw.

There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were 15 cents – her tip."

Don't insult the things you wish you could have

One afternoon, a fox was walking through the forest and spotted a bunch of grapes hanging from a lofty branch.

'Just the thing to quench my thirst,' he thought.

Taking a couple of steps back, the fox jumped and just missed the hanging grapes. The fox tried again but still failed to reach them.

Finally, giving up, the fox turned his nose up and said, 'They're probably sour anyway,' and walked away."

Your reaction matters more than what happens to you

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn't know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the boiled eggs out and placed them in a bowl.

He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. 'Daughter, what do you see?'

'Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,' she hastily replied.

'Look closer,' he said, 'and touch the potatoes.' She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

'Father, what does this mean?' she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.

However, each one reacted differently.

The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

'Which are you,' he asked his daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?'