Losing your virginity can seem a scary experience, coupled with the myths you must have heard about it. Sometimes it’s hard to pick out what’s true about becoming sexually active for the first time. Until you've actually had a session between the sheets, the world of sex can seem both alluring and scary. Whether you’re saving your virginity for your wedding night or still waiting for the right person, here’s what you should know before you take that plunge. 1. Losing your virginity isn’t just penis in the vagina: There are different ways to lose your virginity. It is not just penis in the vagina. It might involve anal sex, oral sex, manual stimulation, dildos, whatever. Maybe you have this equation in your head, penis plus vagina equals loss of virginity. But what if you’re gay, does that mean you are you an eternal virgin? So losing your virginity might or might not involve penetration. 2. Your first time might be awkward: It might probably be short and not particularly fantastic. It takes time and practice to get it right but you’ll eventually get there. READ ALSO: 5 Signs You Are No Longer In Love with Your Partner 3. You might not bleed: Not everybody bleeds the first time they have sex, though some women bleed a lot. The bleeding comes from tearing the hymen, which is basically just tissue inside the vagina. All women have different amounts of hymenal tissue which may tear or stretch the first time you have sex. Plus, the hymen can tear from a variety of things, like physical activity, masturbation and fingering. Chances are, you already tore it a bit while exercising or just by being an active human. 4. You can get pregnant and or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) the first time: Quite unfortunately, there are no free passes for first timers. If your first time involves a penis releasing inside a vagina, you can absolutely get pregnant. You can also get STDs. So before you decide to roll under the sheets, consider protecting yourself against pregnancy and STDs. 5. Using protection will not make it less enjoyable: The important thing is to be safe. You need to practice safe sex once you take that decision to become sexually active. Using protection will not make the sex any less enjoyable. 6. It might hurt a little: A little pain or pressure might be expected the first time you have sex. This could because you’re not well lubricated. This means you will need more foreplay or lubrication. Your body needs a warm-up phase of kissing, touching and so on which could get you aroused and wet. But, if it hurts a lot, you should stop. READ ALSO: 5 Things You Should Never Disclose In A Relationship 7. Losing your virginity comes with fear of the unknown: Once you become sexually active, a late period can cause you to panic. So before you decide to lose your virginity, you should have a well thought out plan for birth control, especially if you are not married. Understand that sex can bring life-changing consequences, like pregnancy or an STD you'll have for the rest of your life. 8. It can make or mar your relationship: It can either bring you closer to your partner or cause a rift between the both of you. Don’t think that because you lost your virginity to him, he’s going to love you and stay with you forever. The only thing that guarantees that is caring deeply about each other which has nothing to do with you losing your virginity. 9. It may not go your way: You might have envisioned in your mind what it will be like, mind-blowing and beyond words just like in the movies. You probably spent time planning but it might not go down the way you planned. It’s better not to think too much about what to expect or you might end up disappointed. READ ALSO: Dangers of Dating Men Who Kiss and Tell 10. You are not how you lost your virginity Whether your first time was good, bad or just there, it doesn’t define what sex will always be like for you. Your first time might not be good at all, maybe because you were forced or abused. This however does not mean all your sexual experiences are going to be that bad. Read more: https://www.naija.ng/702990-10-important-things-nobody-tells-losing-virginity.html#702990
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